“You were born to win, but to be a winner, you must plan to win, prepare to win, and expect to win.” – Zig Ziglar

Today is a new year. Year of the Tiger. The tiger’s motto is “I win”. How appropriate that Year of the Edgar should continue this year. You heard right. This is not JUST a one-trick pony.

I have a confession to make. 2009 was an important year for myself. It is the year that you guys saved my life, in a way. Let’s go back to 2008 and before. I was a depressed individual. It was severe. I was unhappy, and lonely. I was also tired of being this way. I had been for years. No one really knew this, my close friends even. Some people suspected it, like my sisters, but I would push it away and try not to think of it.

Come December 2008. I was secretly filming my extra work with The Guild, and I met Ryon Day. I also had a very nice conversation with Felicia Day and Kim Evey. I mean, I had resolved to do something about this but probably would have just coasted in 2009 like every year. Something these people said, and my sisters, and other friends, it just flipped a switch. I had an epiphany. I literally stated, “I just can’t take it, next year will be my year. Year of the Edgar.” I added THE because some of the guildie fans for whatever reason started calling me “the Edgar” within the community site. I bought the domain and started working on the design/finding a theme. A guildie created the logo using an image another guildie created of me called “super Edgar”. Check my About page for this.

Basically, 2009 was about fixing myself mentally. Through your support, and my want to change, I managed to successfully stop being sad and depressed. It truly worked! This is why I bought so many bobble heads. So many people thought I was crazy to do this. What I was doing was giving myself the confidence boost I so needed. I have one at work, at home, and I carry a box of them in my car. Wherever I go, if I need it, I can look at myself giving me a thumbs up. I also wanted the ability to send them off to people so they could also be reassured by me and my thumbs up. I definitely did not have the money to do this, but I went with it anyway. Sure, you could spend thousands like I did, but I think and hope you can achieve the same thing I did with just one of my own bobble heads.

There were minor setbacks too, finding out I had diabetes in Feb was a difficult blow, then later in the year there was a tragic death in the family, but I managed to deal with it all and managed myself. Things happen for a reason, everyone says this, but when I think about it, both of these events would have devastated me even worse had they happened before last year. Yet, they happened last year and not before.

Some things I took away was, joining a support group and wanting to do it is extremely refreshing. I go to a monthly diabetes group/class and it is very much a therapy session. I don’t think I need it, but I still go each and every month. Even if you don’t think you need it, do it. Participate. It does wonders. Another thing I learned was to be honest to yourself and to others about how you feel. If you are sad, there’s nothing wrong with it. If I continued suppressing it, I would never get out of that rut. Seek support, from friends, family, or even strangers. I lean on my twitter friends all the time and get encouragement from them.

It is now 2010. Chinese New Year. “I win.” What is on the agenda? Actual weight loss. I made mistakes last year and my cholesterol suffered. By the end of this year I will have lost two dress sizes at minimum. At minimum. I will also do more video this year. I wanted to last year, but school and work and friends kept me very busy. I will graduate in a few months, which has been a major goal. I will start taking a language class this year and I also hope to take a dance class.

I want to prove to you that living positively, even through adversity, is the way to go. It is a good way to live. All of this is for me, sure, but I also want to help out everyone else that I can. So many people in my life are not happy with their current situation, through me I want them to know that it isn’t as bad as they think. My life’s anthem is “Lean on Me” because I enjoy helping others. I know of a few people working towards adopting a YotE attitude and I applaud them. They are the beginning of a very good thing.

There is one more goal for me this year. I will probably not talk too much about it, because it isn’t something I will be too focused on. Love. I won’t delve too much into this, but I’ve had an interesting love life in the past and hope for some normalcy. Again, I won’t be talking about it, but I will be keeping my eyes open. I’m a good man and I am looking for a good woman. Someone positive like me.

So I challenge you to make 2010 your year. Wake up every day and smile. First thing you do. Think of a reason to do it and do it. Try to better yourself by doing things for yourself. Reach for the stars and think big. Be confident. Someone pointed me to this article on how people are afraid to think big and how you really should think big. Don’t be afraid to fail either, my take on this is learn from your mistakes and keep trying. Another friend showed me an article on being better than yesterday. How can you make today better than yesterday?

Lofty challenge, but I only challenge because it is what I am doing. Do this with me. Year of the Tiger is your year and it is my year.

This year I will be 30. This year I win.

“All things change, nothing is extinguished. There is nothing in the whole world which is permanent. Everything flows onward; all things are brought into being with a changing nature; the ages themselves glide by in constant movement.” – Ovid (Publius Ovidius Naso)

My last post I mentioned PCC Salud Family Health Center. I’ve been attending a monthly diabetes class, where we discuss a particular topic regarding my disease. Yesterday was one such class.

I’d like to thank Courtney Matthews, RD LDN who’s a dietitian at Salud whom has been instrumental these past few months in affirming my new lifestyle in the way I eat. Through her also, I was introduced to a dietetic intern from University of Illinois at Chicago named Dioscelina who needed to complete some type of poster/board as part of her rotation.

Courtney said she wanted to “feature” some of their inspirational patients on their waiting room walls, and because of my progress and this website and you guys, she thought to start with me. Such an honor.

I’ve known for a couple of months, and the poster was completed a while back, but nothing was really official till yesterday after my diabetic class. Their corporate HQ actually made up a specific release form just for me.

Notice “publish information regarding the positive lifestyle changes of” in the form. Puts things into a whole other perspective. I mean, I know I was doing good, all my numbers say so so far, but having this piece of paper state it so eloquently that I am bettering myself, and its pure existence is due to me and what I’ve been doing, it just reaffirms everything for me. This is just one of many examples to a life of positivity. Everyone tends to focus on all the negative in their lives, if they took the time to do the opposite, maybe some good vibes will come their way.

I hope to get a shot of the poster when its hanging up on the wall. I did manage to get a picture of it, although I believe that a picture of my face will replace the one in the center.

I hope that with this poster, it will give people encouragement as they wait to see their doctors. Its very important to me that people get motivated to help themselves. Its not a lost cause. If I can do this, anyone can do anything.

I am proud to announce that my blood pressure is controlled. I’ve had high blood pressure for some time now, since even before my diagnosis of diabetes. Sleep apnea was definitely one of the reasons, but with my dietary changes and CPAP machine, and medicine, my blood pressure is finally normal.

Score another victory for me! I’d like to give a little shoutout to Salud Family Health Center, a PCC Community Wellness Center and the group there. They have been wonderful to me.

I am on track, I have my sugars and my salts controlled. I need to make sure my cholesterol remains good as well, so in December I will be checking up on that. It is my plan to start up going to the gym once again, I had stopped a while back, resorting to walking only. So, given this, I should be well on my way to some further weight-loss as well as continued success in my battle with diabetes, blood pressure, and sleep apnea. Since sleep apnea is usually due to weight issues.

This year is nearing a close, but I feel that I have progressed well in various aspects of my life. Mostly, that I continued to look on the bright side of life. I hope to have several posts before the end of the year, but these next three months (including this one) hopefully will be filled with more fun and excitement.

Stay tuned. Stay happy.

Marathoner

Amy Guth, whom I’ve known for a short while now wears many hats. Her stint as the literary maven on ChicagoNow had me blogging on my personal blog the other day because she inspired me to write short form fiction.

Amy volunteers for the American Red Cross of Greater Chicago. I mean she really puts in her time. She is also a runner, especially for causes. Which brings me to the current situation. Late last year, in November, Amy was in a car accident in Pittsburgh which totaled her car. Back then she recognized issues with her neck, back and hips. She’s been in rehab ever since.

Recently, her pain flared up so much that its forced her to use a cane, making her look ever so sophisticated, mind you. At the Great @redeyechicago Outdoor Tweetup, I saw Amy and witnessed first-hand how banged up she still was, almost a year after her accident. She’s working through it like a trooper, which just shows how determined she can be.

I bring this up because as a runner, and as someone that goes above and beyond anyone’s wildest imaginations when it comes to helping those in need, Amy Guth has outdone herself. She had committed to run the 2009 Chicago marathon as part of the Run Red Team as a fundraiser for the American Red Cross of Greater Chicago.

Amy will be walking, obviously, but she intends on participating, even in her current condition. She needs your help. As Amy says, “I know times are tough, but every last bit counts.” If you’ll notice, I donated day one. Sponsor her here. The marathon is this Sunday and she is barely at 25%. I implore that you dig deep within your pockets (or credit cards) and consider donating. Yes, any donation works, but I want to see some people give as good as it gets.

Anyone donating $50 USD (what I donated) or more can contact me and I will send you one of my coveted Edgar bobble heads as a thank you for helping my friend. Its Tuesday and Sunday is not that far off. Help Amy meet her goal. She deserves our support, as the Red Cross does, its the least we can do to thank her and the organization for keeping Chicago as safe as possible in the time of need. Leave me a comment and please help spread the word too. This is, after-all, Year of the Amy.

*UPDATE*

I’ve also decided to take requests for donations. Lets be reasonable here, I am obviously not doing something illegal nor something inappropriate, or like gross. Do you want me to karaoke a song on youtube? Signed picture? Dancing? Or the bobble head. (Man, I hope the bobble head.) Tell me in the comments what you’re willing to donate and for what.

“If you ask what is the single most important key to longevity, I would have to say it is avoiding worry, stress and tension. And if you didn’t ask me, I’d still have to say it.” – George F Burns

I used to be a worrier. It was one of several issues I had with myself. I was a nervous kid, what can I say?

The Merriam-Webster Dictionary defines Worry as:

Main Entry: ²worry
Function: noun
Inflected Form(s): plural worries
Date: 1804

1 a : mental distress or agitation resulting from concern usually for something impending or anticipated : anxiety b : an instance or occurrence of such distress or agitation
2 : a cause of worry : trouble, difficulty

Stress will make you sick. Literally sick. Once you realize that worry and stress and tension are all our enemies, we can begin working on fighting it. Its not easy to not let things get to you. I know. I’ve worked for over ten years to get to where I am at now.

“In times of great stress or adversity, it’s always best to keep busy, to plow your anger and your energy into something positive.” – Lee Iacocca

One trick I developed when I started working on stress management, was to keep busy. If you’re not thinking about it, you’re not stressing about it. This doesn’t work for everyone, but hey, it did not hurt one bit.

Think back to the last few arguments you’ve had. Particularly, the “stupid fight” ones. Could it have been avoided? Yes. Did someone overreacted? Most definitely. Was the argument worth it? No way! These arguments or fights stem from this unconscious stream of fear and worry. I’ve talked about fear and thinking positive before. Imagine handling those situations with a little forethought. Tell yourself “I do not want to argue” and with that in mind, imagine how the conversation would have happened. Go into every situation knowing that it is not the intent of your loved one to cause grief or worry. Go into every situation knowing that everyone has the ability to push your buttons, but showing restraint will show you to be the better person.

This is how I got rid of most, if not all, my stress and worry. I recently found myself in a strange situation between two people, and I did not want to be in it. I simply told both parties that I will not be a part of this issue, for I do not want this kind of drama in my life. I continued by stating that should they want to continue a discussion with me, it would be done civilly and without explosive argument.

Ultimately, things happened, and I wasn’t stressed from it. I also tend to look for and avoid stressful possibilities.

“Stress is basically a disconnection from the earth, a forgetting of the breath. Stress is an ignorant state. It believes that everything is an emergency. Nothing is that important. Just lie down.” – Natalie Goldberg

Nothing is that important. At least as your personal health. It manifests physically, through ulcers or migraines or who knows how else. Considering how hard life is already, we might as well make things a little better by reducing stress in our lives. Sometimes a symbol helps, my bobble head helps to calm me and to remind me what it is I am trying to do this year. Sometimes its the thought that by changing yourself, you are ensuring that someone or someones in your life sees this and begins their own transformation.

Or through song. Or through three little birds.

Whatever the reason, whatever the solution, keep in mind that you have to want to stop letting stress rule your life. You need to actively think about things and how you can ignore the stress. Calm down, breathe right, drink more water. Take a bubble bath with a rubber ducky. Do something with a friend. Life goes on.

Finally, something else that always helps me put things into perspective, is that I try to make someone smile every day. Sometimes, several someones. People that I know, or know me, or even strangers. Do something good and watch it multiply throughout the universe.

Being creative helps too.

Garson Kanin put it best:

“There are thousands of causes for stress, and one antidote to stress is self-expression. That’s what happens to me every day. My thoughts get off my chest, down my sleeves and onto my pad.” – Garson Kanin

My good friend, Amy Guth, found this street today and took a picture of it. Thanks Amy!

Having friends actively reminding me that this year is my year, especially through street signs, is definitely something I hope to never take for granted. I always hear of constant reminders of people’s flaws or mistakes but I never hear positive constant reminders. Unless I am the one giving them out. Its definitely something I try to do, but I don’t try to say something I don’t mean.

Take some time to appreciate the people in your lives, thank them for putting up with you. Find several nice or positive things to tell them and throughout the day, let them know. Make sure you mean it because it will come back to haunt you later. Sincerity is a gift worth giving out time and time again.

Edgar

After sleeping through a hundred million centuries we have finally opened our eyes on a sumptuous planet, sparkling with color, bountiful with life. Within decades we must close our eyes again. Isn’t it a noble, an enlightened way of spending our brief time in the sun, to work at understanding the universe and how we have come to wake up in it? This is how I answer when I am asked-as I am surprisingly often-why I bother to get up in the mornings. - Richard Dawkins

Misunderstandings keep us back. They keep us from fully embracing ourselves. When we finally get rid of that aspect of humanity, can we, as a people, further ourselves wholly and totally.

What do I mean with what I just said? What’s that quote all about up on top? Meaning is what this blog post is about. Each of us find meaning to something based on our own unique experiences with life. Good or bad. Its like when we were young and we played Telephone. That’s the game where a person on an end whispers something to the person next to them. That person then does the same thing to the next and so on. The experiment here is that ultimately, the original message will have been lost by the time it reaches the intended target, or the last person on the line.

This actually happens all the time. Your intended message gets lost. Much sooner than expected. So what do we do then to ensure that the message is fully understood? Since, this could lead to a misunderstanding through a miscommunication and ultimately leads to hurt feelings or worse.

Its obvious that we need to be careful in what and how things are said, but ultimately, we must prepare to be misunderstood. Patience and empathy can be very helpful in understanding where the issue lies and how to come up with a positive solution for all. We also need to realize that the only real way to fight against the negativeness that comes from these issues is to be as open-minded when you’re the receiver of the message. We can’t worry if our own messages get lost along the way to our intended audience.

Empathy, the ability to understand what someone is going through. The ability to let go of our selfish tendencies to not think about other people. To try to understand why things happen, why people react, or even why they are the way they are.

Patience, the ability to understand that things take time. Things take further explaining sometimes. To know that not everyone think exactly as you do and there are reasons why this is true.

When you understand empathy and accept it as something you can do, you will easily be patient. There are people out there that cannot be patient, which is also fine, everyone is built differently so its ok.

Know that having these tools at your disposal, you will be better prepared to fight the misunderstandings and the miscommunications. At least on your end. That’s what matters though, there’s only so much you can do and as long as you are sure of yourself, then everything’s fine.

Even before I began this project, I learned the value of empathy and of patience. Its helped me understand people. They are different and thus require different interactions. It helps me reduce my stress and it helps me avoid fear and the other negative thinking that may come.

Lastly, being humble will help us realize that we aren’t perfect, we make mistakes. This helps because we are ever learning, and we will continue to evolve this. Its all about being open-minded and adapting to change. Change that comes from learning or hearing something that sounds like it could be an upgrade to the way you think. This helps me deal with things I’ve not dealt with before, and ultimately I can get through most issues quickly and efficiently.

To sum up, we each perceive things differently because of our unique view of the world. This is based on our previous experiences. Most of us are raised to be selfish in our thinking. Not much empathy in that. Every event or action is dictated by the one question “how does this benefit me?” Its no one’s fault we are this way, its just how society currently is. Once our eyes are opened, and we can truly see the sun for what it is, only then can we enjoy its rays. Before its time to go to sleep again. Just realize that even the sun’s rays burns. So once you can understand why, know that it doesn’t mean its ok. I’m nice, but I won’t be taken advantage of.

Hope this helps your year be just a little better. Until next time.

Edgar

Through these trials, I, along with his family adapted to this and became as supportive and hopeful as possible. I saw him get into depression and hopelessness. he was one of the many reasons I created this website. By helping myself, I wanted to help others. I wanted to help Rick see that things aren’t really THAT bad, and that he would soon get better and get back to normal. Through positivity, support, and a little hope.

I would visit Rick, we would watch movies, eat, and play video games, like normal friends do. We would talk and I would be encouraging, and I even got him to go out to the tweetups in Chicago. He was opening up and it helped me show him that sometimes changing yourself helps your outlook in life.

Ultimately, he just got the right medication and is off his wheelchair and has such a happier demeanor. I am encouraging him to go back to one of his loves, cooking, and hopefully he will continue to make more friends online. Rick represents what it is to take the year and make it yours. He’s come from a low in life and is quickly climbing back up. Year of the Rick is in full force and he will relish his second chance at life. I am happy and excited to be a part of it.

Don’t take MY word for it though, here it is in his own words. I asked him to write up/summarize what he’s gone through in the past few years. Please take the time to read about his experience and keep in mind that right now he’s at the beginning of this new phase, of rediscovery, and of a better happier life.

“Easier to Run… My Fight Just to Walk”

By Rick Montanez

It’s hard to put into words the last three years of my life but, with a world of words at my disposal, the simplest way I could describe it would be…Frustrating!

I want to start at the beginning. The point at which my struggle should have, at least in my mind, been taken more seriously. Back in 2006 I went from walking “normally” to falling to the ground as I would walk. It just so happened that the months prior to March 2006 were a struggle just to find work. Walking to job interviews had become habit but, little did I realize, my walking was off. As I would go to interviews, there would not be one moment where I didn’t trip or fall at least once prior to getting to the interview office from my car. It wouldn’t be until a few months later that I looked back at myself and found that my “walking” was off and I just brushed it off as clumsiness.

It just so happened that, in March 2006, I was finally able to find a job after almost a year. Work became a weekly routine again and so did the falls. I began to notice, more consciously, that the normal task of walking from my car to my desk at work was beginning to be difficult. As I would walk from my car to the elevator, it was a mental fight just to keep my back straight and my posture upright. This would be the start at which I would trip over my own feet. At first, it was a weekly struggle. I would have to consciously make sure not to fall. Even worse, when I would fall, I would hope that there was an object that was sturdy enough that I could catch myself on so as to avoid injury. There were other times when I would try to avoid the falls in front of people so I wouldn’t injure them.

As time went by the falls would get increasingly worse. I began falling on a daily basis. At work, my legs would feel extremely weak and I would drop to my knees several times within the course of the day. I was finding it more and more difficult just to keep my balance. At home, I had to get dressed sitting down cause if I tried to dress standing up, my balance would falter.
After four months of falls, I was finally able to afford health insurance for myself as my job was only on a temporary basis and offered no health coverage.

It was in July of 2006 that I finally went to see my family doctor for my walking difficulties. I mentioned to him that I did some research on WebMd.com and felt that, at that time, the closest diagnosable match to my walking difficulties was Ataxia. He explained to me his thoughts on Ataxia and informed me that he would do some research himself but that he would help me to find an explanation for my walking. After two months of waiting, my doctor admitted me into the hospital for a three night stay so that he could run blood tests, MRI’s, etc. He explained to me that my difficulties could be the start of MS and wanted specific tests done to see what showed. He even referred me to one of the hospital neurologists while I was a patient so there would be more expert opinions available. A month later, October 2006, would find me hospitalized again for more testing. This time I would be in the hospital for almost the entire month of October. They ran blood work, did a spinal tap, which was one of the most painful and uncomfortable experiences I had to endure, and physical therapy. As a result of being in the hospital for so long, I lost my temp job because the company is not able to hold my job so, on top of being sick, I’m now unemployed.

After finding no answer to my walking difficulties through testing, I was released from the hospital on Halloween, of all days, and sent to Outpatient Physical Therapy. I was also put on muscle relaxant medication to see if that would help any. For a while the medication seemed to be helping. I was able to walk slightly better and had fewer falls but, two months into physical therapy, my symptoms returned. This time, the symptoms had gotten worse and, if that wasn’t bad enough, my health insurance dropped me from being covered due to a “Pre-existing Condition.”

Now its 2007, my condition has worsened to the point that I fall with every step, it’s difficult to get dressed, I can’t even stand up long enough to take a shower. My physical therapy has ended because I have no insurance and no means to pay the therapy bills so I’m basically stuck.

Months go by; my condition goes up and down. Some days I’m ok but not 100% stable, other days I just don’t want to be alive because my symptoms are just hard to deal with. I feel weak, tired, my legs feel heavy and hard to move, I get shaky in both my arms and legs. I just have no energy whatsoever to even initiate movement. I go through more testing at a third hospital as I was finally lucky enough to get state-sponsored health coverage. At this point it’s around the end of summer 2007 and I’m sent to a Movement Disorder clinic at the third hospital for more “help.”

It’s at this hospital where it is determined that the symptoms are stress-related. Basically, it’s all in my head and I’m sent to see a psychiatrist and psychologist. They put me on anti-depressants because of my thoughts of suicide but tell me that seeing these two doctors should help in getting my symptoms to subside. They also have me do hypnosis with the psychologist. About a year goes by and I’ve been seeing those two doctors with no improvement. My primary neurologist is no help so I seek another opinion. I’m referred to another neurologist at the same Movement Disorder clinic and she, after some time, runs more blood tests, sends me to see an eye doctor, and does a thyroid test. After all results come up negative, she looks at my file and says to me that she too believe my issue is stress-related. I think to myself, “She’s fucking nuts.” How can stress cause a person so many problems?
I don’t know what to do. I can’t move well and have been getting around for over a year in a wheelchair. My friends and family are supportive. They try to keep me positive. I’m at my wits-end though. No answers, no help.

So, it’s nearing the end of 2008, I’ve been to 6 different hospitals, had an array of tests/procedures done, and nothing has come about. I’m still falling, still experiencing tremors, still feeling extremely weak, and have idea why. I return to the Movement Disorder clinic and am told by my neurologist that she recommends I enter into this research study where I see a more experienced psychiatrist on a weekly basis for three months to see if intense psychotherapy sessions can help. After the three months are up, my neurologist says to come back and see her. If there has been no improvement in my condition she will start me on Parkinson’s medication as a potential treatment.

It’s December 2008 and I’ve started my weekly psychotherapy sessions. About a month and a half goes by with no improvement. It’s now mid-January 2009 and my symptoms are getting even worse now. At this point, the tremors in my arms and legs have increased to the point that, when I fall, I can’t pick myself back up. Have to have help from others in my family to get me off the floor and onto a chair. Heading into February, I can’t take this anymore. I go back to my original, or rather primary, doctor for help. He informs me that he doesn’t understand why the doctors aren’t helping me and will do everything in his power to get me better help. Another month goes by, condition still horrible, and I see my primary doctor again. After my appointment, he has me checked into a hospital again will he will work with the neurologists there to try and find an answer or possible solution to my walking difficulties. I spend about a week in that hospital. More blood tests are run and, after the first two days, am told I will be moved to the Cardiac monitoring floor as they, the neurologists, are going to start me on Parkinson’s medication. I am told that my symptoms resemble Parkinson’s so trying the medication might help but that the medication affects the heart so they will have me monitored for a few days. Three days have passed while I was on the Cardiac floor and the medication has had no negative affect on my heart but, in a surprise turn of events, has had a positive affect on my symptoms. Into the fourth day of being at the hospital and on the Parkinson’s medication, I’m feeling much better. I am able to walk, with a walker, more stable, and my tremors and weakness has subsided slightly. It’s now that I have a more positive outlook and can begin to see the light at the end of the tunnel. After 3 years with the symptoms, I’m now happy.

It’s nearing the end of March as I write this. I’m still doing the weekly psychotherapy sessions and my condition is stable. I’m still on the Parkinson’s medication and it is still helping. I have had days where the symptoms nearly returned but, at least now, I have enough energy to fight back for my life.

I am only one, but I am one. I cannot do everything, but I can do something. And I will not let what I cannot do interfere with what I can do. - Edward Everett Hale

I’ve always been a fan of the concept “Pay it forward” from the same-named movie starring Haley Joel Osment. In the movie, the kid decides to come up with a way to change the world as a class assignment. Do something nice and tell them to pay it forward.

This is the kind of thing I try to live by. Do nice things for people simply because I can. Nothing’s more rewarding than having someone smile because of something I did. If enough people were like this in the world, it would be that much better.

Please take the time to “Edgar it forward” and put a smile in as many people’s faces as you can. Do it with candy, a compliment, or a prank… being Edgar’d is actually a great way to make them smile. How ever you can make them smile. Its such a great feeling and everyone should be able experience that.

Just do it.

@LeahJones gets Edgar’d by myself, @AmyGuth and @TheFemGeek.

You could be next!