After sleeping through a hundred million centuries we have finally opened our eyes on a sumptuous planet, sparkling with color, bountiful with life. Within decades we must close our eyes again. Isn’t it a noble, an enlightened way of spending our brief time in the sun, to work at understanding the universe and how we have come to wake up in it? This is how I answer when I am asked-as I am surprisingly often-why I bother to get up in the mornings. – Richard Dawkins
Misunderstandings keep us back. They keep us from fully embracing ourselves. When we finally get rid of that aspect of humanity, can we, as a people, further ourselves wholly and totally.
What do I mean with what I just said? What’s that quote all about up on top? Meaning is what this blog post is about. Each of us find meaning to something based on our own unique experiences with life. Good or bad. Its like when we were young and we played Telephone. That’s the game where a person on an end whispers something to the person next to them. That person then does the same thing to the next and so on. The experiment here is that ultimately, the original message will have been lost by the time it reaches the intended target, or the last person on the line.
This actually happens all the time. Your intended message gets lost. Much sooner than expected. So what do we do then to ensure that the message is fully understood? Since, this could lead to a misunderstanding through a miscommunication and ultimately leads to hurt feelings or worse.
Its obvious that we need to be careful in what and how things are said, but ultimately, we must prepare to be misunderstood. Patience and empathy can be very helpful in understanding where the issue lies and how to come up with a positive solution for all. We also need to realize that the only real way to fight against the negativeness that comes from these issues is to be as open-minded when you’re the receiver of the message. We can’t worry if our own messages get lost along the way to our intended audience.
Empathy, the ability to understand what someone is going through. The ability to let go of our selfish tendencies to not think about other people. To try to understand why things happen, why people react, or even why they are the way they are.
Patience, the ability to understand that things take time. Things take further explaining sometimes. To know that not everyone think exactly as you do and there are reasons why this is true.
When you understand empathy and accept it as something you can do, you will easily be patient. There are people out there that cannot be patient, which is also fine, everyone is built differently so its ok.
Know that having these tools at your disposal, you will be better prepared to fight the misunderstandings and the miscommunications. At least on your end. That’s what matters though, there’s only so much you can do and as long as you are sure of yourself, then everything’s fine.
Even before I began this project, I learned the value of empathy and of patience. Its helped me understand people. They are different and thus require different interactions. It helps me reduce my stress and it helps me avoid fear and the other negative thinking that may come.
Lastly, being humble will help us realize that we aren’t perfect, we make mistakes. This helps because we are ever learning, and we will continue to evolve this. Its all about being open-minded and adapting to change. Change that comes from learning or hearing something that sounds like it could be an upgrade to the way you think. This helps me deal with things I’ve not dealt with before, and ultimately I can get through most issues quickly and efficiently.
To sum up, we each perceive things differently because of our unique view of the world. This is based on our previous experiences. Most of us are raised to be selfish in our thinking. Not much empathy in that. Every event or action is dictated by the one question “how does this benefit me?” Its no one’s fault we are this way, its just how society currently is. Once our eyes are opened, and we can truly see the sun for what it is, only then can we enjoy its rays. Before its time to go to sleep again. Just realize that even the sun’s rays burns. So once you can understand why, know that it doesn’t mean its ok. I’m nice, but I won’t be taken advantage of.
Hope this helps your year be just a little better. Until next time.